Emotional Intimacy

So there I am sitting on the train, reading on the paper, and I come across this very intersting article.

It just goes on about emotional intimacy.

Now for those who dont know, emotional intimacy is the notion of someone knowing you really well in a very short period of time. They will know you better than most other people, no matter how close they are/were to you.

So is it possible to have a relationship with this 'emotional intimacy'? Of course! We define our own relationships. We choose whether or not to enter relationships ourselves. There is no set guide or criteria to fill. We each have our own set of criteria.

Is it possible to have a deep, meaningful, long-term relationship without this emotional intimacy? Of course. Again, we choose our own relationships and their course.

So what happens when you're in this relationship. You're married, been together for aaages. You share the same interests, friends, music, moveis, etc. He knows you. But does he GET you??? Do you feel lonely when you're with him? Is this all really in your head???

So along comes this guy. Someone who makes you laugh. Someone who just wants to know everything about you. Someone who you just want to tell everything. Someone who listens to you as though they're going to get examined on it. Someone who has opinions. Someone who understands. Someone who can empathise with you. Someone who offers you what you lack. Emoitonal intimacy.

It's fine to be intimate physically with a person. Its quite another to be intimate emotionally. Can you 2 emotionally connect with each other?

So time goes on, and you find it harder and harder to stay away from this new guy. This guy who offers you emotional intimacy. How can someone offer you something so rare? How do you repay him? Through physical intimacy?

So what now? Who do you choose? The one who you're in the dead-end relationship with? Or the one that offers you this rare chance? Who's to say the first guy couldn't form this 'emotional intimacy' with you?

Choose the first guy and you'll be distant. You'll agonise at having lost such a special connection. You may even resent him at being in the way between you and the second guy.

So ask yourself. Do you have this emotional intimacy? With anyone? Someone who has gotten to know you better than some of your oldest friends in a short period of time?





I just want to become what you want.