The True Meaning of SES

So here we are again.
No longer a teen.
One would feel as though I'd be mature by now...
I'll let you decide on that one.

Would like to personally thank everyone for coming to the party!
You have all made the night one to remember.
And there we have it, you have all helped create a memory.

Now, creating a memory is not an easy feat. I'm not talking about those memories that you will remember for like a week. I'm talking about memories that will last a lifetime. One that you will always be able to look back upon, and it will always bring a smile to your face.

Creating these memories is not easy.
Yet, I'd like to think that I have definitely created some of these memories for some very special people already. You know who you are.

And looking back at all these memories I have created, there seems to definitely be one common feature.

SES.

Simple. Easy. Special.

Being able to do something for someone else. Something that they want to do. Not something that they need to do, but something that they want to do. Something that they have always wanted to do. Making their dreams, their wishes, a reality.

But it doesn't stop there.

You have to be able to these things without asking for anything in return. Without expecting anything in return. Don't do it because you expect them to fall in love with you for doing it. Don't do it because you want them to reciprocate your feelings. Don't do it because you feel as though you owe them. Don't do it because you want them to do you a favour.

Do it simply because it is something that they want to do. Simply because you are making another person's wishes, their dreams, come true. Be happy knowing that you are able to make someone else happy. That you are able to bring a smile to their face.

Do it unconditionally.

Whatever it is you do, keep them simple. Keep them easy. And trust me, it will be special. You will be special.

Now just take a step back. Look back at some of the moments you do remember. Memories you wil hold on to forever and ever. I assure you that those memories weren't extravagant. They weren't elaborate. They were just simple and easy things to do. What made them so special is that someone else were willing to do those things for you.

You now know that there is someone out there who really does just want you to be happy.

Someone who wants to make your innermost wishes, dreams, desires, a reality.




The next time someone takes you home, to your door. Just think.
Who's going to mean more to you?
Who will you remember?
Will it be the guy who drove you home in his nice fancy car?
Or will it be the guy who caught the train with you?
The one who took the time out of his life to be with you. To make sure you were safe. To make sure you would have company on the long trip home. Not because they wanted company, but because they knew YOU wanted company.

Will it be the one with the car. Where the 2 of you can get more close. More intimate. Where the car just made life so much simpler. So much more convenient.

Or will it be the guy on the train/nightride. Where as much inconvenience it would cause to them, they would still be the one to take you home. No matter how out of the way it would be. No matter how much time they would take getting back to their own home.

So there we have it. Convenience or a chance to create a memory. Car or train.




So there we have it.
If it ever makes you wonder why 30+ people wanted to show up at my birthday dinner despite the exams and all. And why others struggle to get 10 people to show up to their birthday dinner even when they are shouting.
Perhaps it's because some people are able to put others ahead of themselves. Time and again. Never asking for anything in return.

You guys don't owe me anything.

In Another Life - The Veronicas
I have known you my whole life
When you were ten, you said you'd make me your wife
Eight years later you won me over
Just as I took the world on my shoulders

I got used to living without you
Endless phone calls and dreaming about you
Always said that you were my man to be
But I guess I was in love with your memory

You know I love you, I really do
But I can't fight anymore for you
And I don't know, maybe we'll be together again
Sometime, in another life
In another life

I know I said that I would keep my word
I wished that I could save you from the hurt
But things will never go back to how we were
I'm sorry I can't be your world

You know I love you, I really do
But I can't fight anymore for you
And I don't know, maybe we'll be together again
Sometime, in another life
In another life (another life)

The way you're holding on to me
Makes me feel like I can't breathe
Just let me go, just let me go
It just won't feel right inside
God knows I've tried

You know I love you, you know I do
But I can't fight anymore for you
And I don't know, maybe we'll be together again
Sometime, in another life
In another life, in another life
In another life ...

Love - A game?

Well maybe I've been studying Finance a bit too much lately, but have you ever compared the sharemarket and the game of love?

Look at current investors, having invested all their money into the sharemarket, they're now left with like next to nothing. The sharemarket has crashed, and their investments are now diminshed. Gone.

Look at me. Having invested so much in her, what am I left with now?

But I guess that'sthe chance we all have to take. Risk, uncertainty - they're all fundamental to the sharemarket, just as they are to the game of love.

If we never invest in the sharmarket, we'll miss out on many opportunities. And of course we may lose some money, but by investing, it also gives us the chance to profit from favourable movements in the market.

Just as in love, if we never take the plunge, we will miss out on opportunities. The opportunity to find someone, to find your significant other. The opportunity to feel loved, to be loved. The opportunity to know that you can instil your trust in someone else, and know that they can instil their trust in you. All these opportunities will go begging if you never take the chance and invest. Of course, things may not go as you planned, but at least you know you've tried. That at least you were willing to put it all on the line for love ~ whatever that may mean.

Remember, risk/chance/uncertainty are all elements of life. Sometimes, we just have to be willing to put it out there, to put our money, our hearts, in certain circumstances, certain places, which are out of our control. Sometimes, we just have to let go, and follow it, wherever it may lead. Because maybe, just maybe, the outcome just may be favourable. We may just make a profit. We may just be able to find the one. Our soulmate. Love.

Never let what has happened in the past deter you from investing. Sure you may have made some losses in the past, you may have been emotionally hurt, but the good times are just around the corner. The sharemarket will bounce back, stronger than before. You just have to believe in it. To have confidence in it. It may not happen tomorrow. It may not happen next month. It may not happen by next year. But sometime in the future, the sharemarket will bounce back, and once again, we will all be able to profit from it again. Once again, we can experience some favourable outcomes. Once again, we will be able to love and be loved.

Give up on the market and you will give up on all this. The chance for a happier life. A better life. Something wonderful. Something great. Something beautiful.

Don't let these chances pass by, cause one they go, they're gone forever.

Live a life without regrets, invest now! (Actually hold off a few months before investing in the sharemarket. I expect the downward trend to continue for a few months. Expect a small pickup around December-January).

So I hope this explains a few more things to you. Hopefully, it's revealed a bit more of me to you.

Comments welcome!

What I Look For

PLEASE DO NOT SPREAD THIS!!!!

Ok, so after a really long convo, I finally decided to do this
To list out some of the characteristics that I look for in a girl
Please leave comments (or msn me) and I'll try to keep updating this (in case there are certain aspects that you want to know that I haven't written about)

So first,
I think alot of people have gotme figured out wrong.
In fact, I think that to really get to know me, you do have to date me and find out. To really find out where my boundaries lie.

So first, my ideal person would let me into their lives. Into all aspects of their lives (though not so much their work lives given the whole office relationship sorta thing). I want to be involved. To be the one they ask for help with their assessments. To be the one they ask for help when they have family issues. To be the one they ask for help when they have money issues. To be the one they ask for help when they just need help.

To be the one to take them home. To be one of the people they call just for the sake of chatting. To be one of the people they just want to be around. To be the one to look over them, to look after them when they're intoxicated, high, whatever (just in a state where they aren't thinking straight). To be the one standing next to them as they're hovering over the toilet spewing out what they had for dinner last night.

However, I do not want to be around them all the time. I would still want us to have some alone time. Some time where we could each go see other friends, to catch up with other people. For example, in a week, I would want to be with them, just hanging out, say 2 days of the week. I mean, I'm very happy with how much I see a certain person: Mon-Wed = Uni (dont see each other); Thurs - Fri = Work (See each other, but in an work environment, so that you're not actually with each other); and then just one day of the weekend where it really is just me and her. This is ideal for me. And without working together, then another day together would be ideal.

Just to further extend upon this, let's take a look at how we would be at parties. I'd imagine that for the first hour, we'd be together, hand in hand, side by side. Then for the next 4 hours or whatever, I wouldn't care. I wouldn't mind if we each went our separate ways to meet new people, catch up with others, whatever. But then in the final hour, I'd always imagine that we'd come back to each other, and once again, we'd be hand in hand, side by side.

Am I asking for too much?

And now onto something that I think alot of people have got me figured out totally wrong. It's about how forgiving and liberal I am. So let's start! We'll only be considering 3 things: kissing, dating others, and sex.

Whilst she's intoxicated, I wouldn't mind either kissing or sex. I'd forgive her. I'd forgive her for the first time on sex. And with kissing, I'd keep forgiving her. (As for dating, who actually agrees to dates whilst intoxicated???)

Whilst we've fallen apart (not in sync/major fight), I'd forgive her for the 1st and 2nd dates, though by the third time, its a bit if-fy, and fourth time, that would definitely be it. I'd forgive her for kissing others. And I'd forgive her for having sex with another person, one, two times, and again by the third time, I'd get a bit if-fy.

Whilst she's thinking straight, I'd forgive her if others initiated the kiss (though I'd ask her to stop), I'd forgive her for intiating the kiss with others (but first time only). I'd forgive her for having sex (for one time only). And I'd forgive her for going on a date with someone else (though it would raise some serious questions).

So there you have it. I think I'm pretty liberal on alot of things. Alot more liberal than other guys I know.

I'd like to think that I'm a very adaptable person. Changing myself to whatever it is she wanted from me. I also think that I'm a person who'd fight for the relationship. No matter how bad it gets. And I think that the only reason I would break up with a person, would be if it was mutual.

I'd also give most people a chance if they wanted. They only have to show me. But this would only apply once I get over ******. Because until then, I wouldn't be giving them a fair chance. Because until then, I'd still be putting ****** ahead of others. And until then, I am on a dating ban.

Sorry girls, but this is one complicated guy. But hopefully, you'd be willing to give this guy a chance. Who knows, it may just be one of the best things to happen to you. ^^

Please leave messages and comments. Especially if there's more you want to know about me!


PS. Please refer to Nat's blog http://natalieeee.blogspot.com/ for some really nice lyrics. Fall For You!!! ^^